Category Archives: AAH-RETIREMENT

Elder Abuse

I’m late getting this blog out for viewing because I just returned from another cruise. Senior living is fantastic if you take advantage of living after working. As I have said in other articles, there are many wonderful things to do when you hit the senior status, no matter your mobility or age. I will talk about senior traveling, especially mine, in other articles.

Before I get into my article I would like to welcome Somerby Senior Living to Imperial Plaza especially Maryanne. The Resident Council, with me as President, look forward to working with you to improve, as well as sustain, Imperial Plaza. Our home is your home.

Many times I have seen older people (seniors) with scars, bruises, broken bones and worst. There are events where seniors are severely injured or killed. Not all but most can be attributed to what is known as ‘senior abuse’. It happens all over, all the time, especially to those that can not fight back or is incapacitated. When the people that cause these abusive acts are caught, charged with the crime and jailed, someone always say “they didn’t mean it” or something similar.

As seniors get older and older some depend on another person for help in the daily routines. Many hire someone through an agency and, a lot of times, the person selected to help the elderly person is not vetted properly, if vetted at all. Another reason is the pay. These people don’t get the money they should have to do the best job possible. Low pay equal low work equal elder abuse. I really can’t put the entire fault there because others abuse also.

Family members have been known to do the same thing and, sometimes, worst than an agency. The people or person that received life, nourishment and love from the very person/people they are abusing, really don’t care. Sometimes the abuse is done because of frustration. Sometimes it’s done because they have a mental illness and don’t know any better or don’t realize what they are doing. Sometimes it is done because of stupidity, to see what happens if this or that is done. Most of it is done because of greed. There is an inheritance or insurance, etc. either way, no one can feel or know the suffering that the senior endures.

Over the years, as a police officer, I have come upon cases that have made me want to inflict my own justice upon the person that did the harm. It’s heart retching to see a person beaten, starved, robbed, mocked, made homeless, etc. How can people be so heartless, unfeeling, unremorseful, or just plain sick minded to do this to a mother, father, sibling, child or even a person you are tending to? They must not know God but would be the loudest, crying for help if the same thing would happen to them. They don’t realize, one day they will be in the same condition and will need the aide of others. Remember, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Advertisements

Senior Retirement

Like I have said, as well as many others, being retired is fun and, at the same time, exhausting, to most. Remember, us retirees worked our whole lives waiting to have the time and pleasure to go to do whatever we want to do. I know, many people say they are adults and can do whatever they want to do now. However, the reality is in the back of your mind that there is always the JOB. Vacation time is always too short and you always run out of time to do the things you don’t have time to do. I know this sound like the run-around but look at it seriously.

As a senior, money was put away in your youth, or should have been put away for the time that you can not work any longer or when you reach that retirement age (full or early). Social Security come in handy, which is taken out of the paycheck each and every pay period. Now you can do whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it and for however long you want or need to do it. It is up to you because you don’t have a clock to punch or a deadline to meet. This is your retirement and you don’t have to answer to anyone but yourself and/or your spouse. You can dance the night away on a Wednesday night or go on a two week cruise while someone look after your house for you. You are the adult, the retiree, you do what you want to do.

Or you may do it the way my wife and I decided. Get rid of the house and move into a retirement community (like Imperial Plaza). It may be smaller and it is not yours but what you are giving up is small compared to what you gain. You gain the freedom to come and go as you please. You gain the freedom to stay on a trip as long as you please because everything is cared for, you just take care of the interior of your house or apartment (even there, you don’t have anything to do). You do not cut grass, remove snow, trim bushes, fix a leaky faucet, etc. You are a senior that is sitting back and relaxing. You think about how pleasant it is to be retired as you pick-up your umbrella garnished drink on a tropical beach somewhere.

My wife and I are always on the go and we simply love it. Our passports are up to date and the suitcases never gather dust. Week after next we will be on another cruise and so many other things are on the calendar for this year. So be like the retired me, be a good senior and enjoy the rest of your life because tomorrow is not promised. Also, don’t forget, being a senior does not mean you are limited as seniors were years ago. Accommodations are made for seniors, handicapped people and for people that fit both categories. There is no excuse not to get out there, enjoy life and spend the kids inheritance. You worked for it, they did not, and you may not get another chance to do the things you always dreamed about doing. There is a big beautiful world out there just for you to see, enjoy or just chill. Have Fun!!!

Closer Than It Seem

While backing my car I looked through my passenger mirror and today’s writing came to me. On the passenger mirror a message is written, objects may be closer than it seem. What is primary in my mind is what most seniors go through, eye sight. What make eye sight so disconcerting is the driving habit of the seniors. This is not only dangerous to them but it is very dangerous to others as well.

Many times I have been driving on the interstate and suddenly come upon a slow vehicle or another vehicle almost side swipe me or any number of things that is dangerous. Most of the time a senior is behind the wheel (I’m not speaking about people using their phone). I have asked a few why they drive so slow and the answer I usually receive is they are going the speed limit or nothing is beside them when they first look. Both answers are wrong.

With age most seniors eye sight get weaker, even with eye care from a doctor. Most seniors don’t realize this nor realize the corrective actions; these actions continue as if everything is the same as it was years ago. Corrective glasses are fine but that does not solve the many other senior problems, such as reaction time to a situation. These reaction times are much slower than it was back when. The senior, at times, forget they can not do what they used to do. The mind tell them they have done something before and think they can still do it. Not so, the body will quickly (hopefully before it is too late to pull out) let you know something can not be done. The only options are, leave whatever you are trying to do to someone else to finish, grit your teeth and slowly continue on or get hurt which will cause you to call for emergency help.

The senior is reluctant to give up their independence, opting to remain on their own, do things themselves, drive although their sight is failing and swear they can still make do. The most important thing, other than physical health, is eye sight. That not only effects driving but also effect almost everything else. If the eye sight is not right, preparing food for cooking is difficult because it can not be cleaned the way it should, cut the way it should without cutting yourself, nor cook without burning. The last is because either you can not see the correct temperature or, because the mind is slowly fading, the cooking food is left to cook too long.

All in all, among many things, the eyes play an important role in the senior’s life. I worry about their driving habits, my habits, and the dangers that are caused because of these habits or because eye sight is fading. Don’t be afraid to stop driving. Give up that permit if the need is there. Don’t become outraged because you are tested to find out whether you have the capability to get behind the steering wheel. Don’t be offended because it is for your life and the lives of others. Not only because of the mirror but the eyes may make things seem closer or farther than it really is. Be careful and, if you have to give in, do it.

Affliction

Pain. That feeling we all have as we age; some younger people have it but I am talking about us senior citizens. Some pain is mild, some is extreme but undoubtedly it is a miserable thing to experience day after day, every minute of every day. There is even pain that come and go or pain that is felt until a body move around awhile.

To know that as soon as your body rise in the morning to meet a new pain filled day, the desire to remove yourself from the bed is the most undesired thing that is wanted but the day must be met. There are things to do and nourishment of the body must be done in order to obtain the appearance of a mobile person. No eating, no life. No movement, what is the reason for life? But, move we must as well as eat and drink, otherwise, no life.

It is not good to have life and to be in constant pain. Some come from accidents years ago or recently, some of the pain came with age, none of the pain is good for the mind. There are some people that can be in pain of which people around them never know. There are some that will have the smallest amount of pain causing people around them believing it is an emergency. There are so many degrees of pain and the pain, real or not, will play on your mind. Some people can forget about the pain and go on with life while others will crumble and can hardly move. Both have the same degree of pain but react differently, however, pain is inevitable.

As we age, most of us will meet Arthur, arthritis, whether we want to or not; whether we admit to knowing him or not. Ibuprofen (Advil) is our crutch but there are others. As well as other pills, there are shots, patches, electrodes and things I, personally, have not heard about. Then there are canes, crutches, braces, pads, etc. Sometimes these things are used occasionally and sometimes the body can not do without these things; it depends on the severity and whether the person can stand pain or not. It really is complicated, that is why there are pain clinics. Let the professionals handle it, I am just an amateur with all sorts of pain; in that you can call me a professional.

I look at the people around me. I do not know of anyone that is without some sort of pain. Some is really bad and some do not show any pain. Just like some days I love to ride around on my bicycle, some days it hurt to even look at it. Some days my knees swell and hurt, some days I am the picture of health. Which day will it be tomorrow, which day will it be the day after? With age pain, a body does not know which it will be.

Pain is going to be there and we must continue on with a somewhat productive life. We want to have a meaningful relationship with the spouse, if there is one, the children, grand-kids and, some of us, the great grand-kids. Swallow that pill, take the shot, put on the patch or rub on the ointment; life go on and on. Such is life.

 

The Bionic Super Senior

The super hero, Black Panther, is now showing in the movies. Before today there were many other super heroes, Batman, Spider-man, Green Lantern, etc. There is one other super hero that is real and is not on the big screen ( that you would know it). This super hero does not jump tall buildings with a single bound. This super hero does not swing from building to building on a web. What this super hero does is ache upon getting out of bed in the morning or when it is wet or when it is cold outside. This super hero is a senior. This super hero is BIONIC in more ways than you think.

Every part of this bionic senior super hero is what is called ‘store bought’. Upon gingerly getting out of bed, possibly stretching, the arduous task of fitting all the parts together, getting ready for another day. It takes a young person a few minutes to get dressed and be out the door, it takes the bionic super senior thirty minutes or more to do the same thing. Being bionic is not as easy nor as fast as the senior want it to be.

First on the to do list is putting on the bionic eyes (glasses). Next come the protecting lance (cane) along with the shoes (slippers). After a time in the bathroom emerge an almost new, completely different, refreshed but not quite ready senior who is searching for the remaining super or bionic gear. The gnawing choppers are fitted (teeth). The solidifying shields are tucked in a corner and must be darned before meeting the new day (knee, shoulder or elbow braces). There may or may not be an arch support in the shoes for a little ‘pep in the step’ as well as for that nagging pain. Have to check, make sure the padding is in the right place to catch the daily accidental drainage of possible urine. What ever is said from a distance is heard because it is enhanced by the bionic ear buds (can be set for hearing television also). Lastly, to make sure the oil of life is properly pumping, the pace maker is checked to ensure it is operating the way it should. There may be a bionic leg, hand or arm, maybe two.

The Bionic Senior, a.k.a. Super Hero, take a long time, each day, to preserve the persona of just being human and being able to move without a human aide. The senior is in a struggle each and everyday, all day and night. It is a continuous fight that Spider-man, Superman or Iron-man can not perceive or go through, ever. Only seniors.

But, never count the senior out. The senior may not move fast but sooner or later the senior will get there. That steak look juicy and tender and the senior may struggle with it before it is devoured, but it will be. As long as the brain remain sharp and the dentures do not break, the senior’s life will happily go on and on. Young people can learn a lot from the senior because it is no small feat to meet the world daily. Hooray for the Bionic Super Senior on the daily multi-tasking struggle.

Musing

Just as I thought, this year is starting out with a bang. As it is said, ‘no rest for the weary’, it is a true saying. I have a lot of things on my plate, don’t have room for anything else at the moment. It is also said that staying busy and/or active keep old bones like mine spry. Nothing is ever said about being tired (smile 🙂 ).

I’m staying busy. I have a Tuskegee Airman program at the Virginia War Memorial coming up, red sport coat and all (see photo). Here at Imperial Plaza the Resident Council and the Activity Committee have a lot to do, like I’m not busy enough. That does not include things with my wife, trips, a few specialty doctor appointments (nothing serious), activities here at Imperial Plaza and I can’t forget my part-time job (always something to do there). I have been at the part-time job a lot lately because so many people are out sick (two were admitted into the hospital). I guess all the activity keep me from all the sickness that is going around. Don’t have time to stop now, gotta keep moving (smiling again).

Don’t rave about the intermittent warm weather we are having since the extreme cold we experienced a little while ago. Remember, January and February can become madding in Virginia where, at times, you’d think you are in the arctic. Yet, I have noticed many people at Imperial Plaza outside with coats open (being stylish), wearing short pants and, at the malls wearing flip-flops. Cold is cold and the older a person get the more the coldness have a bad effect on the body. This may have been okay in a person’s youth but a senior’s body may or may not feel uncomfortable. All of a sudden, this adverse effect from the cold will take a toll on the body. Flu, pneumonia or bad colds can mean catastrophic illnesses that a senior may or may not be able to fight off. It is better to be cautious than to suffer the consequences.

Had a birthday a few days ago. Thanks to all that sent me a birthday wish, THANKS! I worked on my birthday, as usual. Someone asked me why, I told them I can count the number of no work birthdays on one hand. As a senior, I hate to think of birthdays because the older you get the fewer you have left, if any. Not many remember my birthday anyway so I don’t fret, it’s just another day but I better not miss their birthday..

I have been monitoring Facebook, especially the Hahn Hawk page. There have been a lot of activity lately, the comments and pictures have made me realize I’m not young anymore. Most of the guys on the site were just kids when we were there, I was middle aged, now they are having grand-kids, etc. and I have great grand-kids. I served in Viet-Nam but people here served in WWII and The Korean War, they look at me as a youngster. I say that to say this, stay young as you want to be by moving around and keep your eye on the weather, protecting yourself accordingly.

Black History Month is here. Keep in mind what the sacrifices were for. Pray for us that were on the front lines and continue the fight for us. Not only for Black people but for all people. There are factions that are against this and there are many that want to do harm, however, fight on and maybe, one day, the clouds of hate will part and the sun will shine.

Retirement vs Politics

Coco Cay, Bahamas

My blog is suppose to be about retirement/seniors but it is mostly political simply because of the toxic atmosphere caused by the present political personnel. However, do not take the political atmospheric conditions as meaning it does not have anything to do with retirees or their tranquil lives. The retiree’s life is anything but tranquil knowing the storms from hell are approaching (new laws or discontinued laws) and hidden dangers are everywhere. Us retirees are being cloaked from the true facts of the turmoil that is before us. There is an attempt to shield us from hearing facts, truths and seeing the cause and effect of political actions and utterances.

Because of these actions (a lot of inaction) we have been hoodwinked into believing that we are better than before and will be even better yet. Don’t be fooled, like the slight of hand, what you see is not really what you see. Some of the endeavors of our present government have come to fruition and the most of it does not look good. I will only list a tiny amount of things that have happened which have an affect on us seniors/retirees.

First, patient dumping. Employees were video recorded wheeling a patient wearing a hospital gown, socks and nothing else, to a bus stop in front of a hospital on a cold, windy night. They left the poor woman there. Don’t ask why. This have been going on for a while but people now believe it is okay because of the new administration. Another is the fact we have heads of agencies that are not qualified or have a conflict of interest because they are either against the agency they head or have had opposing dealings before. One fact in point, a woman heads an agency but now is backing a company to do contract work which have a direct money deal with her. Our tax money at work, straight to her pocket. The rich get richer and us poor people get poorer. One last point is how we teach our children, grandchildren about the brashness of using vulgar language. How to respect other people, no matter where they are from or who they are. Not so for our President. He teach the usage of vulgar language and racist disrespect. So goes the President, so goes the USA. Don’t listen to grandpa or grandma, the President will show you and tell you the way to do it.

I am only saying one thing. Just because you are older now and think politics is a piece of the past, a thing you used to dabble in, think again. When your grand-kids tell you to ****. The President did it first. When you go to the hospital and your co-pay is more than you can afford and you get put out into the cold, the President said it is okay. When your roads and bridges or whatever is in disrepair but your tax bill keep getting higher, remember the President put that incompetent person in charge.

Politics is something we all should have a say about and keep saying it loudly. Because you are retired does not mean you give up on your rights or give up on life.

Lastly, I recently attended a commemoration of Dr. Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. There were many non-residents in attendance in the Imperial Plaza’s auditorium which contrasted the poor turn out of the Imperial Plaza’s residents. There is a large Black community among the four buildings but, as usual, there was a very poor turnout of Black people for the program. The Black Mayor (Richmond) and Black Police Chief (Richmond) was in attendance and spoke to many people. Many Army personnel from Fort Lee were there and that reminded me that many people don’t realize a Black History fact. Afro-Americans have participated in every war and/or conflict there ever was in and for the USA including The Revolutionary War and both sides of The Civil War.

I have been getting a lot of hits and followers on this blog but, in case you don’t know, I have another blog at www.faithingodministries.net Hope you will also read and enjoy that blog. Let me know.